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ABOUT Heather

Author. Speaker. Developmental Trauma Expert. Social Worker. Mom. Believer in Love.


Heather T. Forbes, LCSW is the owner of the Beyond Consequences Institute (BCI). She has worked in the field of trauma and healing since 1999. Heather is an internationally published author on the topics of raising children with difficult and severe behaviors, the impact of trauma on the developing child, adoptive motherhood, and self-development. Much of her experience and insight on understanding trauma, disruptive behaviors, and adoption-related issues comes from her direct mothering experience of her two adopted children and mentoring a severely trauma-impacted young adult.


Who Am I? Here's My Story Beyond My Bio

I was born and raised in Vero Beach, Florida. I grew up with three older brothers and a fraternal twin sister. The best memories of my childhood are going to the beach, riding horses, and visiting with my grandparents.

Yet, apart from these good memories--memories of growing up with little emotional connection with two alcoholic parents, plus the feeling of being "invisible" within my family system. (And I share this with you because these difficult memories are an important part of who I am today and why I am so passionate about the work that I do). As a child, I found connection and validation through academics and graduated at the top of my class. Following high school, I attended the University of Florida and earned a bachelor's degree in architecture and a master's in construction management.

After working for ten years in the field of architecture, I woke up one morning with this pulling desire to be a parent. Due to numerous health issues and operations in my past (all a result of growing up in a stressful environment), adoption became the way to motherhood. After four long months of countless phone calls and long nights working on paperwork, I found myself in Russia meeting my son, an adorable 2 1/2 year old little boy.

This was a major turning point in my life. Motherhood became the most difficult task I had ever undertaken. I had accomplished any goal I set my mind to in the past. Focus, self-discipline, and pure determination had been my tools to success. Yet, in the first six months of motherhood, nothing I had used in the past was working. Nothing-nothing was working. In fact, it was only getting worse.

Out of pure insanity or complete denial, I was in Russia a year and a half later, adopting again! This time I was meeting my daughter, a beautiful 4-year-old little girl. She was completely different, yet in the back of my mind, I kept hearing, "She's too good...there is something very wrong here."

As you can imagine, I had created quite a situation within a very short amount of time. After late nights of research, consultations with "experts," and at least 200 books on attachment and bonding, I was still at a complete loss of how to bring peace into our home.

Late nights of research turned into late nights of curling up on the bathroom floor, crying in a complete state of helplessness. Yes, I've been there on the floor with you, feeling terrified of the future and feeling as if life was no longer worth living!

I decided that since I was doing all this research, I should return to school and change my career path. Looking back, I was simply returning to the environment that I knew in my early years that had sustained me through stress--academia. I earned a master of social work and started training in the area of attachment and bonding. It was finally the insight into the understanding of trauma and fear that solved the mystery. My children weren't acting "bad," they were scared, overwhelmed, and living out of a traumatic framework.

After working to first change myself and the interpretation of my children's behaviors, I was then able to parent in a new way. It also required intensive healing of my past childhood experiences in order to be able to become emotionally available to my children's pain and fear. I came to the realization that if you want to change something in your life, there's only one place to look: inside you. And when you look to make this change, you must do so with love.

It took learning to love myself. First though, it required a true understanding of the essence of love. We cannot give something we don't understand or something we have not yet received. Loving yourself is the key to being able to love others unconditionally, without requirements. This is especially essential to parenting children with a trauma history who simply do not have the capacity to receive love or reciprocate love due to the intensity of their internal pain and fear.

When unconditional love is put into action, it truly is the "cure" to creating peace in the home. It simply takes learning how to put it into action. Traditional  parenting techniques are fraught with fear, disguised as love. Shifting your perspective to allow the light of love to overcome the darkness of fear is the only way.

My children are young adults now and we certainly have come a long way! My children are more emotionally intelligent than most people I know and they understand the dynamics of human interactions beyond their years. Their early experiences of abandonment, abuse, and neglect continue to be a process of integration for them as they define who they are and discover what their purpose in this world is. No matter our struggles as a family even today (as every family will always have), the difference now is that we will NEVER go back to the bottomless pit of hopelessness and despair. What we will always have from this point forward is relationship and hope. Now that's the power of love!

If you are struggling with the effects of trauma in your home or in your school/classroom, I want this level of healing for you. I am passionate about providing the resources and understanding you need to make this all work for you. It's hard work. It's a journey of commitment and tenacity. Yet, it's what life is about - loving relationships. You aren't living unless you are emotionally attuned to both yourself and to those around you. 

I am committed to helping families and schools change the false traditional interpretation of how to discipline children. We have to remove the fear. There is a much more loving  way reach the depth of pain that resides in children impacted by trauma. I hope you'll join me on this journey to bring love back into a world that is living in too much fear and pain.


Love always prevails!

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"When you learn to live your life out of love instead of fear, it will never fail you or misguide you."

My Timeline



I was the first born with my twin sister, Angie, on July 15th in Vero Beach, Florida.

*Please note: the year above will update each year as to keep Heather's age at a perpetual 39 years old!



Adoption of first child from Yaroslavl, Russia.




Peer reviewed research study, "Issues Facing Adoptive Mothers with Special Needs" is published in the Journal of Social Work.


Adoption of second child from Yaroslavl, Russia.



Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC is born.



"Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control, Volume 1" is published.


"100 Daily Parenting Reflections" is published. (Now available by email.)



First "BCI Live" Training Series begins



"Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control, Volume 2" is published.



"Dare to Love" is published.



"Help for Billy" is published.



"A Study Guide for Help for Billy"
is published.


"The Trauma-Informed School: A Step-by-Step Implementation Guide for Administrators and School Personnel" is published.

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The Trauma-Informed

Online Academy is 




"Hand-In-Hand: A Manual for Creating Trauma-Informed Leadership Committees" is published.


The Gingerbread Girl is published.


First ever Trauma Informed School Conference® kicked off in June!

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Awarded the 2017 Drenda Lakin Memorial Award for Continuing Service to Adoptive Families, Washington, DC



The Trauma-Informed Curriculum for Social-Emotional Learning: Preschool Through Early Elementary is published.


Traveled to Dubai to conduct an intensive trauma training for the OMID Foundation.



"Classroom180: A Framework for Creating, Sustaining, and Assessing the Trauma-Informed Classroom" is published.


The Trauma Informed School Conference® goes virtual!


The first Classroom180 Virtual Bootcamp begins in July.


TISConversations Podcast is launched. 


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TISC® returns to an in-person event!


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Classroom180 Live in Denver, CO

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